Agree , this isn't working for both of you. Remember most women , do not like a totally submissive man.Maybe she isn't in to it. Some women are naturally dominant and would do fine with the lifestyle you are trying. It sounds like to me she has lost respect for you and interest. Also you do not derive excitement from being denied rather you are overly frustrated. Basically the idea is exciting to you but you also want to fuck. You should save the submissive stuff for playtime once in a while.Maybe during the day she can lock you up and tease you at night every so often but in between those times, experiment with you being dominant instead or just making love. I think if you fuck your wife like a man once in a while you will both be happier and more satisfied. If you want to watch me show you what to do with her , I'd be happy too.