QueenAva99

Like most cuckolds, you fail to understand that the Queen is in full control of what, when, where and how you will receive anything. There are guidelines of course but ultimately she decides. 

This is my goal. Thanks 

Thanks for your opinion and reply. I think and certainly agree that we need adjustments. I am working on what they are.

I'm not sure what you mean by pimping me out?  I am more than willing. However because we are new I don't have many participants that I am attracted to as of this moment. We decided to forgo the "Bull " aspect. That was mostly my decision but we mutually agreed. I think because I am not having the encounters or with the frequency he would like that he doesn't feel like I am the queen. I am truly trying trying but his impatience makes me feel like I am failing. 

I have measured it myself. I do not need to post pictures to prove it. You ask a question and I gave you an answer. And you are right I am a queen and that is my prerogative good luck

 I'd like to make one thing clear. He cheated before we were in the cuckold lifestyle. We recently reunited after I left and are still trying to work out our problems. I don't really know why he strayed in the first place. He stated that he has been a cuck before in another relationship and realized that he needed that again. He was afraid to share that with me before. I would also like to add that he has changed in his demeanor significantly from what he was before. That was one of the conditions of me and him getting back together. And he has done so mostly. So I do want to give him credit. However, like everyone, he has setbacks. As long as he is submissive and controls his temper and sarcasm we don't have a problem. This works great for me. But I can see that he is struggling. In my research, and I could be wrong, it stated that one of the rules for a cuckold was to be submissive at all times. Also he is not to argue with his Queen. Now, I may be confused but I was under the understanding that this means in every way not just sexually. It was stated in the post above that they can become violent if it is forced upon them. My problem is, isn't that the precipice of being a cuckold? And how can the Queen gain control if she is not given the opportunity. How can she feel confident with his submission? I basically feel like he is picking and choosing different aspects out that he benefits from and it is not concerned about what benefits me also. This makes me feel like he is not serious about complying.

Yes there is. My cuckold has 12 and 1/2 in. We have learned to adjust 2 different things in this manner of Lifestyle

I agree and thank you for your comment and your help. I am literally new to this so I'm unsure of how to handle things with him specifically. I don't think that he will stray again however honestly there is always that thought in my mind. Due to his past Acts I naturally have insecurities. He is well aware now that if it happens again we will not even have a relationship much less a sexual one.

I should also add that we are in the swing lifestyle and have been for quite a while. So for me to find out he cheated was beyond my comprehension

9 hours ago, Stonemtncouple said:

Have the heart to heart. Make sure cucky knows this is just a fun “Hobby” a diversion from daily routine life and not something to become “consumed” with. Men can be consumed with sex unlike most women who can keep sex in balance with other activities.

Set guidelines like, We will spend three hours a week online searching for Bulls together. You will go out on one date a week or what ever your good with doing. Set upfront expectations and limits to what your comfortable with.

This is what has worked for us. My Hotwife will go out or we will have a MFM once a month more or less. I was guilty of pressuring her and had to learn to control myself and let her act on her own schedule. I had to relax my fantasy and let it happen with her taking the lead. The more I showed her how Hotwifing made me love, pamper, spoil, serve her, the more she has responded with slutty behavior.

Hopefully you can convey this to your Cucky.

 

 

Make finding “Bulls” or Lovers for you a fun activity for both you and hubby. Search through the online sites like swinger sites such as Swing Lifestyle or Swinger Date Club or even AFF or tinder together. When you find an attractive man tell hubby how you like the guys profile and wonder how much better he is going to fuck you than hubby can. Start online chatting and emailing from these profiles while hubby is with you. He will “get off” on all your  online flirting.

Next have phone sex with prospects while hubby listens, then meet the prospects together for a coffee. If the prospects seem safe and your attracted invite them to fuck you in a hotel they pay for with hubby present for safety sake.

Do this as a routine untill your comfortable and confident your safe going alone with a Bull you’ve fully vetted. 

Go on your schedule not Cuckys, dont let him Dominate you from a sub position. Otherwise its a coersive relationship.

You as his wife do what you want!

Sex or no sex. Always and all the time thats true Domination for a Cuck. 

Your Cuck will be in heaven!!

Thanks so much. I think

a part of my problem is hubby is a sex addict. And another problem is he recently cheated with someone I knew but did not give permission 2. So I have my own issues alongside of this worrying if I don't do enough is he going to stray again. Just being honest

I'm very new to this and I have done alot of research. However I am having trouble with his submission to me outside of sex mostly. He brought this way of lifestyle to me and I agreed to go for it whole heartidly. It seems that he is only concerned with my sexual activities, mostly pressure for more and more. He doesn't seem satisfied. Not sure how to handle this