honestly it takes time, sometimes years to get her to do it. And sometimes it happens in the moment, but you have to put her and you in a situation where the moment can happen. Buy her sexy lingerie and dresses to make her feel sexy, then take her to nice hotels for weekend, then take her to bars and clubs where single guys hangout. hsve her wesr those secy dresses and lingerie to said places, leave her alone for a little bit, and watch the guys approach her. She will respond one she feels wanted and desired again. Unfortunately for married men, the wife doesnt need ur flattering, she needs flattering from other attractive men to boast her confidence.