We are swingers: I'm 39 shes 33... She always had 45+ old partners... not by choice on the start, because it what was available at our swing club... but became a must...
As, who knows, swinging and sharing its a lot on her psychological side, how affect her mind, and the visual power of an older men affect her a lot.. and plus that, most know how to take their time and make it about her.
It's all about the mind: Its only real sharing if its fluid free... If you never did it you may be amazed its a lot more psychological than physical... with the way it affect her mind. The body format, the dark skin for fatter body, the age, and knowing its got a condom she knows its not a real sharing of our bodies. That's why we take our time to find real partners, fully tested and not in a rush. Usually a weekend or a 3 day weekend on a Airbnb to enjoy ourselves, several times, with food and relaxing =)