Do Bulls Really Understand What A Bull Is?

[Guest]

Just wondering if Bulls really know what the term means? I see so many guys claiming to be Bulls, yet don't actually grasp the concept other than they want to fuck a guys partner, when the reality is so much deeper. 

[sandy1607408]

I agree with you. Need more education and responsibilities.

[Guest]

So where are all the Bulls? Surely they have a chance to have some input here?

[LeicesterBull75]

I don't actually like the term "Bull" but consider myself more as a close friend to a couple. But if I had to put down in writing what I think that roll would be I would say from experience it would be something along these lines.

Being "Bull" has the lot of responsibilities instead of “just fun”. A "Bull" has to understand what couples are looking for and why are they meeting.

The myth of the lifestyle is that couples find bulls just because husband is not able to satisfy his wife. This is completely wrong interpretation of cuckolding lifestyle. Human nature is always looking for change, that is why this curiosity of allowing 3rd person in sexual lifestyle comes to the Couples mind. They are doing things regularly but they want to enjoying something more and want to take their sexual life to next level. And they discuss these things with each others, and so called new "Bulls" please keep in mind husband and wife discusses all possible aspects of sexual lifestyle and then only they decide to enter in the lifestyle. Based on their discussion they come to conclusion what kind of lifestyle they want to enjoy either it is swapping, or it is threesome or it could be cuckolding. So "Bulls" always have to respect the decision of cuckold couple.

When Cuck husband allows his wife to have fun with a "bull" that does not mean that husband is weak at something, rather he is the strongest person as watching listening or allowing seperate room fun, And there own wife having fun with someone else is not easy to digest mentally. So the "Bull" has to respect the Husband and wife both.

Being a "bull" to me doesn’t mean you are allowed to have sex with hot wife whenever you want, they are couple and they live in society where all these things are not approved. So Understanding that the couple has their own family, their own problem and giving them their space is the 1st responsibility of "Bull".

Suppose if wife tells you something about there husband or husband tells something about there wife then you don’t have to be someone who try to tell husband or wife that he or she is wrong at some place. They already know who is wrong and at what step so just listen it and don’t try to be the adviser. Keeping both husband and wife happy by listening their views is another responsibility.

When you meet the cuckold couple and involve in the act then you have to understand what the hot wife liked to enjoy in bed, and what hubby want to see. lets take an example, it might possible that wife liked the cowgirl position a lot and husband want to see her enjoying sex with "Bull" in doggy style then "Bull" has to find the solution to keep both of them happy. "Bull's" can not just do whatever they want to do with a wife. If he does then that person is not a "Bull" but alpha. So understanding the situation and acting accordingly is another responsibility of the "Bull". And while working on this responsibility "Bull" has to take care of his own happiness also which is hard to work on and that is why not everyone is real "Bull".

Another thing is that when "Bull" shares the  bed with a wife, it does not give him the place of husband, wife loves her husband more than you so "Bull's" should not try to take the place of husband in the wife’s life. That is the wrong interpretation and that ruins 3 lifes. For example, the wife is enjoying a lot with you in bed does not mean you can message her or call her anytime. It does not happen with the time of Bull, the meeting, the calls, the chats happen from  the wife side when she wants to. And it can happen that she wants you for example 2 times in first week but she avoided to talk for next 2 week even on call or chat. "Bull" have to maintain that privacy and dignity of couples.

Even after doing all this there is chance that cuckold couples might not call him again easily. that means "Bull's" should have patience before jumping to any conclusion. I've had a lot of experiences in my years of enjoying the lifestyle both as a couple swinging  and now as a windowed single guy and based on those experience, I can summaries that Being a "Bull" is not easy and also not the everyone’s cup of tea. "Bull" should be versatile in all manner including, decision making, bed skills, emotionally, and physically as well. One who thinks being a "Bull" means just having sex with the wife then they should understand that they will never get chance of being "Bull" in real life. As it's like having a 2nd husband and best friend and lover all rolled into one.

Obviously my take on the lifestyle. And one that seems to be what happens a lot with about 80% of the couples I've met. The other 20% were more alpha. I prefer the deeper connection if the roll of a Bull anyday. It's not all about size, stamina, I know that I'm only 6". But it's more about a deeper connection. Your more of a +1 than just a fuck and go