Cuckold Research - the scientific truth.....or not.

[CuckoldFart]

The truth about Cuckolding It is only within the last 40-50 years that the cuckold lifestyle has evolved. References to cuckolding appear in literature as early as the 13th century, usually in the form of male characters who fear that their ***** has been sired by another man during an act of infidelity. Today, however, cuckolding has become fetishised into a powerful sexual fantasy for some men, who get aroused by the idea of their romantic partner engaging in sexual activity with someone else...

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[Guest SandL]

Overall, his research found that for the most part, cuckolding tends to be a positive fantasy and behaviour. It doesn't appear to be evidence of disturbance, of an unhealthy relationship, or of disregard for one's partner. But there's an important caveat, added Lehmiller. We found several personality factors that predict more positive experiences acting on cuckolding fantasies. For those who have a lot of relationship anxiety or abandonment issues, who lack intimacy and communication, and who aren't careful, detail-oriented planners, acting on a consensual non-monogamy fantasy could very well be a negative experience," he said. "In other words, not everyone who has a cuckolding fantasy should think about acting on it.

I read the whole “part I” and while I’m not sure about the percentage of how many people fantasize about this or think about this lifestyle,  its certainly more common than we ever thought it was. When we started researching a lifestyle that might help our marriage, we never dreamed it was as popular as we’ve found it to be. We thought we were crazy or something!  We were really encouraged that so many people are into it...and from all walks of life! That’s why sites like this are good. It helps us weirdos not feel so alone and encourages us that there’s not something wrong with us!  We’re certainly the better for sites like this and articles like this...I’m certainly going to order that book! 

I can also see why this works for certain personalities and not for others. If insecurity is a major problem for either partner (especially the husband, I would think)...its going to end badly (at least in my opinion). I’ve said this before in other posts, but maybe not so clearly. But having amazing sex (and I mean amazing! ) with another man has only made my husband that much sexier to me. I can’t really explain it...I’d like to see some research on that! When it all started, I went to another man because my sex life with my husband was lacking and one of my fears was that I wouldn’t want to have sex with my husband anymore. I feared that because I love my husband to death. But just the opposite happened. When Steve comes home from work or something I get all giggly, goofy like I did when we were first married. Having mindblowing sex with a man with a bigger cock than my husband ha ssomehow made my husband more attractive to me. Maybe its because he trusts me, because that has a feeling of confidence...and confidence is oh so sexy! Maybe because letting me be with my guy makes me feel loved by my husband...that too is such a rush. I don’t know...but the mind is a crazy thing and only goes to show that its our biggest sexual organ....except for my guy...his biggest sexual organ is his cock 😂 

Just my 2 cents 

Leslie 

[PartyReadyCpl]

I think Napoleon Bonaparte had an officer junior to him (as was everyone, I guess) that was in his command staff who was at least aware, and possibly taking some active role in his wife consorting with Bonaparte. It was supposedly somewhat of an open secret. I got the impression that the officer approved and that it wasn't an adversarial situation at all.

I don't remember where I found the reference, and it's possible I'm full of it.

In that since you couldn't call it "cuckolding" but rather borderline polyamory. IMO the term "cuckolding" is too casually tossed around at times and used not in accordance with it's definition. I do think often it is indeed appropriate depending on how closely the situation follows the traditional definition. However it seems often people say "cuckolding" when what they are describing is more like "wifesharing" or "hotwifing".

But it's one of those things like "an historic" (incorrect) vs "a historic". (Damn, I hope I don't monkeyfuck the internet!) where people missed a critical part of the definition or rule but are absolutely insistent on abusing the language.

But..... it's all good, we know what you mean, LOL. The main reason I've pointed this out is to give those something to think about if they should be in danger of premature something or other.