dirtyblueeyes

Maybe buy a strapon, cyberskin or realfeel thats larger than you, if she digs it, test the water by roleplaying that you are a different person or ask her what is better between you or the toy, either way, gradual honesty and testing to see if sexually there is anything that she needs that you cannot provide has been my process. Im led to believe that often the female can be confused as to why or how you are into the idea of them doing things with others, just make sure that you express this comes from a passion for her, not indifference and reiterate the kick is her doing things, not your own freedom as some ladies on posts ive read fear their partners only want to let them sleep with other men to legitimise their own cheating. Unless you are both a fairly ingrained kink couple a bunch of the notions will maybe require pigeon steps before being understood. What do you feel your other has to gain by doing things with other guys? what are you aiming to get out of it?

At pretty much the same place as you, If anyone says anything "ground-breakingly" useful Ill pass it along. good luck.

Its threads like these that make me more than a little nervous Still fun to read though.

The south east, kent. reasonable advice n all I just lack the resource but If I start talking with folks in the scene who are semi local I will be sure to ask their advice. thanks for the reply.

Thank you for your best wishes, As I say also 6"+ and not entirely skinny, frequently she cant even tell if im hard, her toys start at about the 6.5" insertable and pretty thick all the way up to 9-11" insertable, It has taken me a while to recognise but I rekon I might have been living with a natural size queen who never got an opportunity to explore any of this reality for the last 10+ years without knowing, its this that she wishes to explore in a gradual way so yeah, were both a lil redundant in this case . I used to have some interaction with rl parties and such but cant imagine that appealing to my other, what online resources did you use or do you find the most useful? I feel like online is the preffered method, leaving it to random chance is less likely, weve tried drunken random encounters a few times but folks tend to brag about being a lot bigger than they are and nothing special beyond that. Thank you again for you reply and your best wishes, happy new year to you also.

It might be worth sending me a pm and engaging in some talks, maybe check my other posts.

Thank you for your reply, the more anonymous route appeals more I think for both of us though I can see the potential benefits to the alternative we would definitely prefer to know the ground rules were established with a kink savvy person rather than risk complications with rl folks, besides im 6"+ and not sure how wed go about establishing a person was bigger to make it worth her while but can you recommend any sites for making contacts?

If she was id commend her on her skill at subterfuge and achievement while being undeniably a bit hurt to not have been involved at least on an emotional level. Im thinking folks here enjoy messing with folks more then helping out

The movements ive found to cause the most pleasure involve inserting myself with a degree of an angle and so making contact at the base and shaft in a kind of flicky maybe "jabby" way, but I fear potentially causing over time a degree of sensitivity in specific areas that no toy or other penis has ever caused her, this is a long term relationship of over 10 years from teens to 30s with the problem occurring with a degree of consistency anytime I aim to make her feel me. She had scans early in our relationship to see if there were any issues with none found, and as I say, no pain from any toy even a ridiculous 14" "thick as my arm" toy she bought while drunk and used once out of obligation which i tbh didnt think could fit but she still managed about 8". The pain and her not feeling comfortable believing that someone would be fine with stopping if she needed to, coupled with us not really knowing how to meet or make contact with hung guys understanding enough to work within our context is at this point the only barrier to her being bedded by a larger guy, for the last year or so literally every time she gets drunk she wishes she had a contact. Excuse the time it took me to reply, email issues abound.

My gf fluctuates in her desire to experience rl contact with a larger guy despite me having largely been replaced by sex toys. She has asked me to take the pressure of working out a "how" out of her hands. Context. She had a bad start or two with her own experience of sexuality and can sometimes assess a potential meeting with concerns based on real life experience along with maybe less ideal aspects of pornography and society. I explain that many men get their kink from consent and causing pleasure rather than pressure or degradation as opposed to her element of fear of there being an expectation to ride or suck and aggressively fuck like a willing doll in every respect, im not saying she is against these things, just that she fears the pressure to perform when at the moment she really just needs a caring sensitive well endowed guy who is able to get a kick from going at just the right speed that she needs to learn what works for her on a very basic level. She has concerns about needing to stop and this not being respected if she felt uncomfortable for any reason. My desire for her is to learn that her concerns are largely superfluous in a world of mutually consenting adults interested in causing pleasure to one another and to let her explore aspects of sexuality she didnt get an opportunity to learn about given a rough start, some fairly tiny ex boyfriends and me, averagely endowed but experienced enough to know when average can only get a dame so far. In short, we are a young looking couple in our early 30s in the south east of england, looking for a sensitive well endowed person willing to take things as slow or as fast as the lady feels comfortable with, whos into skinny green eyed dirtyblonds who will almost certainly dig your ideally 9" plus with girth tool more than their boyfriends once you let her warm up. Or, advice to a relative newcomer on achieving this from folks who have.

Thanks a lot btw, gf read your replies and found them to be entertaining.......... She spent a fair portion of yesterday teasing me about your posts and talking about how it wouldnt matter if i was chopped in half and was only a few inches long as too small is too small, she can basically ignore my 6.5 and says she only feels it when im "really trying my best" but that its hardly "proper sex". The only penetrative act that has left her sore in the good way you mention since ive known her was when she out of the blue purchased a 14" super thick dildo (doc johnson "rambone" 13.5" not 14" ) which she used to make self her cum while she also used her vibrator ,she was a little bit sore for the evening after using it but not the negative pain that my d has caused (go me). So.... Im very much hoping that her penectomy jokes were just for fun though her logic is undeniable but id say thats a little advanced for me right now. There is almost no doubt that she is building up to meeting a hung guy, shes hooked up with a couple of guys randomly in bars and screwed but theyve mostly been as eh, "averagely" endowed as me which she was disappointed by, shes looking for a guy who can be dom but would first and foremost be sensitive to her needs and ease her into it, its very much a case of "when" rather than "If" which we both accept. I find it thrilling and am eager to know if my fears of her being as inclined towards bigger men and her potential reaction are a fair assessment of the situation or just some mix of insecurity and perversion on my part, or maybe more likely perhaps, a little of both... Again, thanks for the replies though also in the best of ways I now resent you both. After I had an evening more or less entirely spent having my dick bitten and slapped while she measured how much she thought should be removed to make it as useless to me or anyone else as it is to her. I think/hope she was joking about the reduction aspect but yesterday was the first time she had said anything that extreme, I wonder if being hard undermined my vocal resistance to the notion?, either way, I blame all of this on you two, I hope you are pleased with yourselves.

I consider myself fairly inept at eh, most aspects of written communication- praise be to spellcheck patron saint of dyslexics and such- So...... unless you are being brutally sarcastic about the stringing two sentences together thank you for your kind words. I asked this question on a couple of hotwife and cuck forums and have thus far only received one reply on any of the sites so im thinking my issue may be a rarity, alas, its just hard to explain to myself or for me and my girl to work out why bigger dicks are fine but why mine has always been a pain, caught half way between cumming to quickly or else hurting the last person i want to to cause pain to on this planet. Its weird going from being elevated on account of never cumming or at best rarely being made to cum with people i didnt give a shit about to now be with a girl who basically can take twice my size and has literally made me cum in my underwear with the slightest provocation, ego suffers while my libido increases making a further mockery of myself while my partner increasingly talks about being short changed by the majority of the penis she has encountered as we gravitate towards a dildo led relationship with her making a few buddies as required. I fear as i have caused others to react with relative ease but feel lost in her that my girl has literally never experienced what sex is properly supposed to feel like and that if she does uncover the limits of her full potential without me holding her back that her definitions and expectations might alter to my detriment. There is something terrible and wonderful about being utterly fixated on one person and for that one person to have so much more potential than myself, that even if i mastered my reactions to her i would still not be enough, if by some miracle i could grow to a chunky 8 id still probably splosh if not moreso on account of actually being able to affect her, we can do 4 hours of her being fucked by a thick 8" but yesterday when she let me be in her for the duration of her smoking a cigarette or until her buzzer for food happened (as you can tell shes totally gagging for my manhood when penetration happens on such terms, i think "pity fuck" is the word im after) and granted i only lasted for like half of her smoking but i still cause pain, much frustration and much confusion, the worst and most annoying part is on a few occasions when shes been ouchy, using a large toy can "unpain" her. fml and such hu

Hi, im new here and somewhat new to the whole phenomena of cuckoldry, if there is a relevant place to do an introduction and provide some context ill do that shortly (feel free to tell me where) but that aside, Hi!!! Ive been with my girlfriend for 13 years im in my early 30s as is my girl, im fairly experienced and got around a lil when i was in my teens so when i met my girl id been with a range of girls and boys, ive felt big in some girls and less big in others just as ive been screwed by some smaller and some larger guys with my preference being 8"+ and thick but i digress for the sake of context...... The first time i ever went inside my girl i felt tiny and came almost instantly, id only been made to cum by a handful of people, had never masturbated with my hands ( i used to kinda screw my bedsheets as my ritual for self gratification) and had never never cum so quickly, the trend of me cumming far too quickly became a permanent fixture and learning to, excuse the crassness "wank" by simply thinking of her was mind blowing as up till then masturbation had been pointless. The issue is that when i do manage to resist cumming I sometimes cause pain im 6"-ish with a slight curve to the left, I genuinely should know how to use what i have but so often she either cant feel me till im literally on the verge of, eh, "busting my load" or else i leave her with sharp pains in her side. We went through a period where i used to use slightly sideways movements as this made her feel me more and made her react a lot more but whenever i aimed for that effect the after pain was always extreme. We used to think the problem was on her side as my curve is subtle and ive moved this way on others, at least right up until one time a few years ago she rode 11" of a double dong. She rode it hard while i bit down on the other end to secure it, she was literally pounding my face with this toy- her lips touching mine and no pain. For me this left a mark but we didnt talk about it till last xmas when we introduced a dildo called mr dick into our relationship, its an ann summers product so you can see what im talking about... It is straighter thicker and longer than me and has never caused her pain, it doesnt fill her, she always asks for more when cumming, this has along with a strap on harness partially replaced my penis in our relationship. Since using "mr dick" i cause her a lot less pain with my actual cock but still seem to be able to be to "jabby", while she can grind against the dildo with it entirely inside her while she asks me for more. So yeah, after that excessive slurry of words Id expect folks are wondering why I made you read all of that, well, heres the thing, I cant find any posts anywhere that relate to the idea that little willies are painful while big ones arnt, plenty to the contrary and i was just wondering if any others have experienced anything similar? It feels counter intuitive but its getting kinda hard to deny that my gf is a natural size queen and i think i need specifically the experience of other size enthusiasts to confirm that this is even possible and not just a delusion brought about by my insecurities or kinks. Thank you for your time. tl;dr Has anyone else experienced pain with smaller guys or guys with a slight curve but been fine at taking larger objects, can a smaller guy be more painful than a bigger guy who just goes straight up?