Understand everyone’s dynamics are different so what works for one couple may not work for another.
So I’ll try to explain some of ours. First off I have not nor do I look at my husband any different, in fact I am very thankful he not only lets me but supports me playing. There has been times I told him is was happening no matter what, but not very often and if he’d had serious issues I wouldn’t have. For us it all about respect and communication, as long as everyone is on the same page and having fun then enjoy, if one is not then a talk is needed.