Need your opinion/advice

[ghadidas]

My girlfriend and I are thinking of trying some cuckold/hotwife flings. (25 years both. I'm the only one she's been with). But we've got some issues (both of us) and we'd like to get some opinions from people who practice the lifestyle.
1. Is there any way back once we've done it? Can we do it only a few times or will it become a lifestyle? Will she lose control and become flirty with guys (like not having the power to stop flirting)?
2. Which is the best way to get started? To find a guy from a dating site or to pick up one in real life?
3. I'm 15cm. Presuming we/she find/s a bigger bull (we both hope), will I ever be enough for her after that? (from trying different toys, the ideal size she would like to find is 17-18cm).
Thanks

[Louise]

1. Is there any way back.  No, once your lady has been with someone else, she can't undo it. 

Best to agree beforehand what the rules are, i.e. only a max of x times.

Will she lose control - that depends on her. It is VERY easy to lose control - such as not bothering to use a condom In the heat of the moment. 

2. For me it worked well with our neighbour.  I had him whenever his wife went off to her see her mother (approx monthly) until they moved away from the area.  I have recently met someone from Cuckoldfart, and that is going well so far - we have had just one session in bed together with my husband present.

3. My husband is not large, but I love him, so it really doesn't matter to me.  Our old neighbour was quite large, but us ladies are designed to stretch quite a bit.  My new lover is not so large, but is inventive and great fun in bed which is what my husband and I are looking for

 

Have fun !

[blacklarge]

I agree with Louise..  I am a husband who has let his wife play..  The hardest part will be handling your insecurities and not accidentally ruining her experience.  If she loves you size wont matter she will always have the deepest sex with you.. the seperation of emotions is the key.  It has to stay physical.  Have fun

[ghadidas]

Thank you for the answers.

About what Louise wrote. I wasn't thinking about undoing it. I was wonderind if there was any way of stopping it. Like having a few flings, and then going back to just us.

[Louise]

Yes, you can - we did after my first 'fling' - but that lasted several years.  My hubby was able to watch after we got started. 

 

Then we had a break of many years, and now at my husband's insistence, we have met someone from here (Bryan), and started a monthly meeting togeher which is brightening up our own sex life. 

 

We started out with my hubby (Pete) meeting Bryan in a park, and then they joined me on a park bench.  We chatted, seemed compatible, so my hubby left us alone to chat and get to know each other a bit. 

 

Bryan and I walked hand-in hand through the park, stopping to kiss for Pete's benefit.  We all got tested (essential now I think), and since then we have had just one session together which was wonderful.  I got what I  wanted, being stripped by a more forceful man and taken to bed, Pete got what he wanted which was to see me having wonderful unprotected sex with Bryan !

 

Louise

[DeeDee]

My girlfriend and I are thinking of trying some cuckold/hotwife flings. (25 years both. I'm the only one she's been with). But we've got some issues (both of us) and we'd like to get some opinions from people who practice the lifestyle.

1. Is there any way back once we've done it? Can we do it only a few times or will it become a lifestyle? Will she lose control and become flirty with guys (like not having the power to stop flirting)?   Each couple is different, but most find that the women want it to continue more than the men. Once you open the flood gates, there's no closing them. And once you, as a woman, experience amazing sex, you want it more often. Some women lose interest. Yet, many like the attention of other men. You will have to find out what happens, uniquely for the two of you.

2. Which is the best way to get started? To find a guy from a dating site or to pick up one in real life?  We have found Craigslist to work well for us.

3. I'm 15cm. Presuming we/she find/s a bigger bull (we both hope), will I ever be enough for her after that? (from trying different toys, the ideal size she would like to find is 17-18cm).  I prefer around 21-23cm, but to each their own. The vagina is a wonderful thing. We can feel all sizes of men in us. If you make her happy now, that will not change. The other men will be just added fun.
 

[Louise]

So right DeeDee, we're all different, which means you will have to figure out your lady yourself.

 

I liked the new attention from our neighbour, and the extra attention that Pete paid me afterwards, and I like the extra attention from Bryan and that Pete is now paying me much more attention.

 

Have fun, stay safe.