Cuckold wannabe...

[Usemywifeuk]

I've been married for 6 years and together for 15. Ive always loved guys looking at my wife and have always wanted to share her. I'm looking for advice which might help me to bring the subject up, she knows my fantasy is for her to fuck other guys but she doesn't seem to keen. She is the shy, quiet type... 

Many thanks 

[RobJohnson]

Unfortunately it will be a very difficult task. If she knows your fantasy and she isn’t keen, then there is a big barrier to break down. Could be impossible.

Every relationship is different, and my advice would be not to push her in a direction she is unsure of, as it could damage your relationship.

I would personally support her in looking more appealing to the opposite sex, clothes etc, and make her feel as special as possible so that she feels more confident. 
 

if she is shy like you say, she may not feel attractive, so to encourage her to dress more appealing to the opposite sex and compliment her may make her feel more confident. 
 

Then and only then you could move onto the next stages by seeing if she would flirt with the opposite sex or put herself in situations that could encourage males to come forward.

You must take tiny steps, not focus on the end goal, just on taking the first step which is to make her feel attractive and confident.

Although this may seem a long term plan, you are actually in a good situation as you and your wife are communicating well, you are being able to communicate your fantasy, and the communication is the key.

Once she is less shy and feels confident you have another hurdle of reassuring her everything will be okay if she flirts. She will need loads of reassurance that your relationship won’t suffer. But that is for another day, firstly make her feel special, make her more confident and rarely mention your fantasy so she doesn’t think you are only doing these things to reach your goal, which she currently doesn’t want to pursue.

Its amazing what changes will take place once you overcome her shyness. Confidence changes everything and once you have achieved that, the next step could be easier than you think. So put every effort into making your wife feel very very special. 

[captainblack]

Great advice Rob.  I will add if you have a mate that finds her attractive let him in on your desires and make him a frequent chum for social activities where he can compliment your wife and interact with her WITHOUT making passes at her. It will build her confidence and in the end your mate may even be able to bed her, but it is to be taken VERY SLOW.

[Peter C]

Very difficult to add anything to rob's excellent advice. My wife Debbie was quite out-going and enjoyed male company socially, but even after having been together for 10 years, it took over 2 years of gentle encouragement, occasional persuasion and some role-play in bed from time to time, before she was convinced that I'd was serious about letting her see other men. As other husbands have no doubt encountered, a wife will often think that you don't love her anymore if you're willing to let another man take her to bed or that it's some ploy to gain permission to bed other women yourself.

I let her know how much I enjoyed men eyeing her up when she wore a short skirt or a low-cut top and she admitted that she enjoyed the attention too. It was a case of right place, right time in the end, when a young customer at the shop she worked in hit on her and he successfully dated her and fucked her. We then had 9 years when she refused to repeat the experience, due mainly to my insecurity after that first guy, but eventually she succumbed  to temptation and was bedded by at least 4 other guys. Sadly, we drifted apart over time and divorced, but I put no blame on her infidelity. Actually, I miss that side of things!

With my new girlfriend Becky, it's like chalk and cheese. I have confessed to her how much I enjoy seeing men check her out and she isn't adverse to showing off a bit of cleavage or her bare midriff, though I have stopped short of suggesting she start dating other men. I really don't think she would go for it. She's another quite shy girl and I think she'd be horrified, but of course you should never say never and I enjoy fantasizing about the possibility.