It could be interesting to compare notes - I do agree. And I accept that sex and coffee don't really go together!

I guess "watching" as opposed to joining in is popular with many in addition to my husband. He, too, loved there to be lots of kissing, foreplay and petting for him to watch as well.

Trust all went well Molly. I guess staying a whole night without "Bob" being there makes things quite different from our experiences. Maybe it's to be preferred but even when I spent the night with someone of my husband's choosing, he would be there in the same bed to watch and encourage. He would join in to an extent by playing with my body whilst I was having sex - he particularly liked pinching or pulling my nipples - but he only wanted me penetrated by the other person. But his being there made it something involving both of us rather than excluding him. Everyone is different and Bob may prefer not to be there - you intimated this possibility - but I would encourage you to make sure this is what he wants. I'm sure if he feels excluded this won't be good for your relationship. Oh, and as for "James" wanting your nude photos posted - I see that as a sign that he wants to demonstrate to the world his "ownership" of your body. Post away - it's a turn on, I know but do be careful to make sure "James" knows you are doing this as your choice and not his.

When someone's approaching their climax you can always tell. They try to push deeper inside you as their bodies tense up just as they start to cum and then they hold onto you quite tight as they pump inside you until their climax subsides. I often wondered if that was done to satisfy my husband's requests that the cum inside me or it was something that nature compels them to do: some sort of inbuilt urge in a man to get as much of his seed as deep inside you as possible?

Not the entire team - and it was soccer not rugby!

But on that occasion I guess he couldn't have had any "breeding" in mind for me!

I'm not so sure he thought of it that way. I think it turned him on to watch - and that was the big thing. But I also think there was an element of his enjoying his ability to control and it's fair to say that it also made him popular with his friends!

Many of us get pleasure out of giving pleasure. and by doing what he wanted I felt good about myself as well.

If he asked - yes. He did want me to kneel but he preferred me to lick him "back there" while he lay on the bed with his knees raised up and legs spread apart masturbating himself. That way he was in more control and could make himself last for ages before climaxing. My jaw could sometimes ache before he finally came.

I can see it could be a good idea to have a full discussion about everything beforehand. My own experience of that first time was very much more a "spur of the moment" thing. But I do think it a very good thing that "Bob" will be with you. I think you'll find his presence a support and if you haven't had sex in front of someone else before you'll find that quite an experience, too. It may be that you'll find "Bob" gets real excited by watching - my husband certainly did. He held my hand that first time - whilst his friend was inside me. That was a reassuring thing but his excitement certainly overcame him as his friend sped up towards his climax and my husband urged him to "fuck her hard"... "cum inside her". So, you see, they can get carried away with their own excitement! You take my best wishes with you, by the way. Have fun.

Good on her for being so bold - it looks like she enjoyed it no end. And I loved seeing that anklet on her there: my husband bought one for me, too.

Hi Molly. Was wondering how your thoughts are developing and whether you'd like to update us?

Apologies for duplicate posting

My experience was that my husband always wanted those with whom I had sex to cum inside me. I had thought that his reason was that he got extra excitement from seeing them leaking out of me after they had climaxed. I had thought about the possibility before and reading this thread makes me wonder if he also had in mind that I might also get pregnant by one of those encounters. He was certainly anti my using the contraceptive pill which I took partly to control an irregular cycle and I'd often find the packet had disappeared mysteriously. Putting two and two together it does seem quite possible he reckoned my getting pregnant during an encounter was a possibility and maybe he got a thrill from that as well as from watching me being fucked. He sometimes took a photo afterwards to show me their cum leaking out and although this isn't me, the photo does remind me of how his friends didn't like to be photographed and would hide their faces to try and avoid being recognised. Maybe for him the idea of sharing me was a case of "bred and fun"! Seeing her lying there after he had finished reminds me of being asked by my husband to spread my legs apart so he could check if they had done as he wanted. He wanted to see their jism oozing out from me and down between my buttocks as evidence they had done as asked. And how the man hiding his face from the camera when the photo was taken is just how they were happy to fuck me given the chance but reluctant to be seen in any photos my husband took.

Hi Molly and thanks for being so considerate (and flattering!) in what you say. I've not been with another woman either - guess fooling around with a schoolfriend doesn't really count - but I wouldn't now rule it out and I suggest you keep an open mind about the possibility, too. And, yes, the photos are of me. Your being so complimentary did tempt me to add more but I guess there isn't that much that you haven't seen already! Keep well. Pat x PS. I should have added that I admired you for posting that additional photo of yourself - even with your face partially blocked out. You look great and it is a buzz knowing that others can see you like that, isn't it. Good on you!

So far as I saw the whole scene, my husband's pleasure was an important part of the activity. Several have suggested that the other man is there just to pleasure you but I wouldn't understate how much pleasure my husband got from being there and watching. And I would suggest that having regard to his wishes and desires is very important. And although there is pleasure from the sex act itself, those who suggest "unadulterated lust" is involved and it is "sex without limits" have it right from my perspective. You will need to give yourself entirely when you go ahead - I'm somehow sure it is what you want - and I am sure both you and your husband will find it an incredible experience.

The only way you're going to find out is to talk to her about it. As waverunner suggested, if you share with him he may be able to help you with your desires.

Although she may have been fearful at first, I bet the knowledge that they had seen her naked became a turn on for her after a while.

What you say makes sense. I certainly recall his enjoying porn videos lots.

Although I wasn't aware of its significance at the time my husband bout me an anklet chain with a "little devil" charm attached. He wanted me to wear it when we went to parties and although I didn't understand its significance at the time he eventually told me, after I had question why he always got me to wear it if he was inviting one of his friends around to have sex with me or we went to a dogging site, that wearing an anklet on my right leg that had a charm like mine indicated that I was "available". And the idea of me being available for use by others - and watching - was really his scene. His friends soon cottoned on to the significance of my having it on if they were invited home - but I did wonder if Steve told them what he intended it to mean. However, as an experiment I wore the anklet on a recent beach holiday just to see what happened. Not sure if I was disappointed or relieved - but not one man made any comment at all about the anklet or what it might signify. One woman who must have had some idea, did comment on it looking nice and asked if I was a "hotwife looking for some fun" but she was called away and our paths didn't cross again so I wasn't able to ask her what she understood the anklet to mean. I haven't spotted any discussion on this topic here but wonder if others who use this forum have come across the idea of the anklet having significance or it is just a small number who give it this interpretation?

I must admit to it all having the effect you describe but what photos are you talking about and who is Randy?

When my husband did this I tended to think what he wanted was for his friends to "admire his possession": just as a man loves others to comment favourably when he gets a new car. But, in truth, it is a turn on for the wife, too, knowing that nudes of her are being shared around.

I suppose being the centre of attention is exciting as well as flattering - but a body can get sore you know!

wavedancer, on 15 Oct 2014 - 3:07 PM, said: I guess his response is what might be expected from a man! But it can be a turn on for the woman, too.

So you want her to get pregnant by someone else?