I can assure you that you're laboring under a misconception, my friend.
We've always been careful about using BC, but it was the pill, not a condom. We've always played bareback except for one instance we met with a guy from NJ who felt like he needed one. Wifey had Essure put in I think a couple of years after our second was born and we decided that was all, so now she has springs in her snatch... what's not to like?
I admit to only marginally understanding the attraction of the pregnancy thing. I think maybe I sort of get it as it's just another way of making everything a little "dirtier" which I understand completely. No judgement to anyone into it but to us a child is a big commitment and they're expensive if you provide even a fraction of the minimums they need to thrive. Now I do understand someone raising a kid if it's accidental or if the hubby is sterile especially.
But I truly don't judge on things we're not into or don't quite understand, If we did that we'd probably be freaked into a stupor, LOL Besides, we're into some pretty kinky stuff ourselves.
But whether you know that you know this (yet) or not at some point you'll realize that on the spectrum of kinky or outrageous things people into this stuff say or actually do the "your wife should only go bareback~~" thing isn't even in the top 20. Hardly a standard for a litmus test. (and see there, you;re already beginning to process the fact that you knew this all along, don't fight it. It's like swimming, relax and let it happen, you'll get there)
Note also (because if you don't bring it up someone else will) Note also that I didn't say not to be careful because that would be... imprudent. There's other things at play here that put the responsibility of a child in proper perspective. I would be remiss if I failed to point out that condoms and or test results at best are only marginally adequate. I remember several large recalls of condoms for manufacturing defects and even if made perfectly to specs improper storage and shelf-life still render them useless in probably a higher percentage of the time than we realize, and I bet less than 1% of people even are aware that those two things are an issue. Two other factors at least a few have considered is using the wrong lube with a condom WILL destroy it's structural integrity in just a few minutes, and that's if it survives the giant horsecock that gets us off so much. Lets assume for a moment that the test results the fellow showed you are genuine and that the lab hasn't made any mistakes in maintaining their equipment and their paperwork and tracking procedures are in order so the results we're looking at actually match Mr Horsecock. You've probably heard it at least a few times "a negative test result does NOT guarantee the absence of disease" . The technical reasons for that include the incubation period between possible exposure and when something has reached the minimum load that will cause it to show up on a test and any possible exposure that may have occurred since the test specimen was collected would NOT show up on that test because the guy's way on down the road by the time he picked up that cute waitress at the Waffle house. If she'd had an orgy with a troop of circus midgets and some well greased dachshunds it could be understandable if she forgot to mention it 'cause he had a really fat bag of meth that fell in the floorboard when she was slurping some off the head of his giant dick. Now he's got dirt in his crank on top of everything else and everyone knows that sucks so lets just back up on that and say it never happened. One thing about those test results... how do you know they're real? I'm on PC now and even though I don't have a printer hooked up on my network at this moment It's sitting on the table and I can have it configured and installed in 10 minute tops, and in less than 30 minutes more I can show you a form showing he's clean as Mother Teresa and to make sure you know it's authentic it will bear the signatures of Donald Trump, the last 3 Popes and Elvis Presley.
This thread is a bit old and here as usual I've rambled on too long. But if you've came back and read even part of this by now you should realize that the measure you seem to be advocating are far from being as reliable as you thought you were led to believe and all things considered there may only be 300 people in the whole US that are properly using their test results because almost everyone tends to forget stuff like the incubation period.
Far from what you thought it was,... should you throw out all that stuff and do nothing? Hell no, I'm not saying to ignore the situation and not take precautions. There the tools we have and they'll have to do along with other ones I've seen mentioned on every sex related board that the test/condom advocates tend to dismiss.
I'm saying use the tools that you have, use them properly, be aware of their limitations, and don't ignore that there are other ways of screening and risk reduction that people might be trying to tell you about that while also imperfect probably are at least as useful as the measures the media has been harping about, or were before other news came along.