How Many Couples Have Family That Know About Their Cuckold Lifestyle

[Rivieramaya]

you've heard the term "cuckold""
... but what is it really? How does it work? And most importantly ... is it for you?
Sex counselors and sex coaches, like me, are knowledgeable about the practice to some degree. My job as a Clinical Sexologist and Intimacy Counselor is writing educational articles that help enlighten the public about sexuality in all of its forms. Cuckolding is just one of the many kinks people have but do not fully understand.
So, I'm here to answer your curious questions about this kinky ancient marriage practice:
Q. A cuckold marriage ... what exactly is it?
I describe cuckolding as a marriage where the husband derives sexual pleasure from watching his wife have sex with a man who has a larger penis.
The couple forms an agreement in their marriage allowing the act of cuckold, which can vary in degree from role play for some couples to an lifestyle of actual cuckolding (the wife engages with sex with other men in front of her husband). This knowledge and tolerance of the wife's activities with other men makes the husband in such relationships a "wittol," properly speaking.
Q. Where did the term cuckold come from?
The female equivalent "cuckquean" first appears in English literature in 1562. Cuckold refers to the fact that the man being cuckolded is the last to know about his wife's infidelity.
This also refers to a tradition claiming that in villages of European time, the community would gather to collectively hhhhhhhhh a man whose wife gave birth to a child that was not his own. This is where the humiliation aspect of cuckolding first came into play. According to this legend, a parade was held in which they forced the hapless husband into wearing antlers on his head as a symbol of his wife's infidelity.
Q. What actually happens in a cuckold relationship?
In modern cuckolding, the husband watches his wife engage in sexual activity with other men either right in front of him, or she tells him about her experiences after. The husband feeling like a victim of the cuckold is a major element of the kink.
In the fetish cuckolding subculture, the female is typically sexually dominant while the man takes on a submissive role, only becoming involved with her or her lover when the wife permits it — sometimes he remains completely celibate in the marriage altogether. A main ingredient in cuckolding marriages is humiliation and denying the husband sexual release until his wife decides to allow him to climax. In some marriages, the husband may even wear a male chastity, further allowing his wife control over his orgasm.
Part of the sex play is also the comparison of penis size and the wife shaming her husband for not having a large enough penis to give her full enjoyment of penetration. For this reason, many men in the fantasy of cuckold consider a black man dominant.
Q. Is cuckolding the same as swinging or having an open marriage?
Often people confuse cuckolding with swinging or polyamory, but cuckold is different in that the husband is loved by his wife only. He allows her to experience pleasure with another man. But, he does not want her to fall in love with the other men, only just receive pleasure from them.
Q. Is "shame" the only way the wife makes the man submissive to her?
Sometimes submission elevates through the wife using domination or bondage paraphernalia to tie her spouse up and spank, paddle, or flog him as way of "punishment" or shaming for not fulfilling her sexual desires. This can occur just as sexual role play in the couple's life, or it can become a way of life for the couple depending on the degree of cuckolding in the marriage.
Q. Is the desire for cuckolding common (and is it normal)?
Cuckolding has been around for centuries and retains its popularity today. In fact, neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam found (after analyzing the contents a billion online search terms) that “cuckold porn” is second only to “youth” in heterosexual porn searches. (Although, it's important to note that what you typically see depicted in pornography does not explain the psychological aspect of cuckolding.)
In other words —a man wanting to feel submissive to his wife and have her shame him, but he lives in fear of anyone knowing, is not as uncommon as we may think.
One of the main questions I get asked by men is, "How do I tell my wife I want this? And if she does agree, where do I find a person to start the cuckolding with?" As with any new adventure that a married couple takes with sex play, this should all begin slowly and with respect for each other.
For more information on cuckolding or to set up an appointment with Pierre Riviera Maya one of the most important things to us it's always keep your secreet safe

[vicky74]

my step dau knows, she is cool. about it.

her mom explained it very well (4yrs ago, she bit novices) . wife a  good teacher, taught her the difference between alpha male (her bf)  and beta male (thats me).

[nhfun2]

On ‎9‎/‎21‎/‎2016 at 7:51 AM, stephieonshow said:

Ours is hopefully kept quiet from friends and family. However i have recently found out that when i was a kid there was an 'uncle' around who wasn't actually an uncle in terms of family but always around the family. My cousin who is a bit older than me told me only last year that this Reg was in fact caught by my real uncle who became suspicious fucking my aunt (his wife/my mums sister). Yet he remained close friends to them and was clearly still fucking her with his knowledge and the knowledge of the adult members of the family generally (there were 6 sisters and their spouses). 

There is a book out there about different  family's who had a so call  uncle who would visit and stay overnight  (  mom uncle , and dad watching  )  The story I got is that a female author traveled  France ,  Germany and other country's  40 , 50  years ago and became aware the husbands were letting their wifes sleep with other men ,so she wrote about it . When I acquired about the book   it was not being printed anymore . I would love to find this book if anyone has any info .It has good information about cuckolding . I believe cuckolding is as old as sex itself .

[brandynbobnov]

my mom, aunt, her sister & MOST IMPORTANTLY, my youngest Brother, BRIAN, all have known since we became a couple almost 5 yes ago!!!  Yes, of course, he was our 24/7/365 BULL for the first 3 yes till he went to prison for drugs. brandy, as well as the 3 that know, were his sluts, I was his bitch!!!

 

[Bimarried001]

Only my 2 daughters know because they see the men coming in and out. 

[harlotandhubby]

sister in law knows, and 2 of her work colleagues

[icelord0807]

My opinion is that relatives must not know,except if they are also in the game.For example my wife's sister knows,but she is getting shared with other men,so she can understand.The majority cannot.As a matter of fact,humans are polyamorous,but there are a lot of religion and social chockings....So...

[small cock]

Some family members have found out, but they didn't understand the true situation, they just thought they caught my ex wife cheating. 

I have been positively outed as a cuckold to friends and coworkers a few different times in the past. 

[jagman1957]

My mother in law has always thought her married down (true) and has not liked me since day one.  I would love for my wife to tell her mom that she was right about me and that I didn't satisfy her in bed, so she cut me off and has fucked other guys... But no way. She also has a snooty sister who hates me.. I would love for them to go out drinking and have her "let it slip".  Don't see that happening either...  She has told co-worker that I have a little dick and can't fuck. Our jobs over lap, so occasionally I would see this woman. She was always nice.. but it was kind of hot knowing that she knew 

[DomBull4U]

small cock...

Would love to know more about how you were outed. Hate to be so nosey...and not looking to kudge. Just curious. Sounds like it could be kind of a hot story/situation.

Thanks!

DomBull4U

[DomBull4U]

jagman1957...interesting story. Thanks for sharing it. 

You seemed to enjoy that your wife's co-worker knew about your being small...and lacking in skills in the bedroom. 

Maybe I am reading too much into this...but maybe not! I think you have a desire for your mother-in-law and your wife's snooty sister to know of your wife's plight....your lack of size and skills.

As I read your story, I thought about your wife "letting it slip" one night while out having a few drinks with her mother and sis. I imagined the three of them checkng out some other men in the bar. And your wife saying...ohhh, I'll bet that guy over there is a good fuck. And your mother-in-law chiming in...he's bound to be a better man that that sorry excuse of a man that you married. You always were too good for him, dear. And of course your snooty sis-in-law getting in a few shots too..."If I were you, sis...I'd kick that loser hubby of yours to the curb ASAP. I have the name of a good divorce lawyer if you want it. You should call him tomorrow...get rid of that sorry bastard. You've wasted too many good years on that loser already. Get it over with...and move on." And M-I-L saying you really should think about moving on, dear. It's not too late...and you could do sooo much better."

And your wife sticking up for you...for a minute.  I know,I know, I know...you're right, you're both right...but I cant explain why, but I love him. I fell in love with him when I was so young...and I would just feel horrible dumping him.

And then your wife lets the cat out of the bag. She's looking over at the guy she was eyeballing earlier...she's had a drink or two...and she says outloud...I shouldn't say this, but I would fuck the shit out of a man like that guy over there. Just look at him...he's gorgeous...and I'll bet he's got a nice BIG fucking cock too! Not what I'm used to. I love jagman and all...but...I'll bet that guy over there has got a BIG cock that would make me gag when I sucked it...would make me choke and slobber all over it when he fucked my mouth. And I'll bet I'd have to get on top of him first...so my pussy could get used to his nice...BIG...FAT...COCK. Just once I'd like to be fucked by a man like that. A man with a MAN'S cock...one that would split me open...stretch my pussy...with a fabulous hunk of man meat that would just fill my cunt up! A cock that I could get on my knees and worship.

Of course at this point your Mother-in-law and snooty sis-in-law cant believe what your drunken wife just said. They're shocked...shocked to hear her say such things. But they are also wickedly delighted...because your wife just told them about your small penis.

By this time the three of them have had quite a few drinks. And your evil M-I-L and S-I-L come up with a devious plan.

 

[Midgabull]

I was in 2 live in situations one had 13 and 14 yr old kids that knew I was moms bf and she sleeps in bed with me and their dad has a small bed in the same bedroom. His parents and sister & brother in law showed up in Ga from Minnesota with out warning on a saturday afternoon around 4 pm the 13 yr old told them they will have to wait they are not allowed to interupt when mom and her bf are punishing dad. 

 

Another time I was team driving with a guy the company paired us together. I was single never took home time so we went to his home when home time come up. She had been texting and talking to me daily after about the 3rd night. The day b4 I was sleeping I sleep nude

 When I woke up he was sitting in front seat looking right at me I told him from the way your wife controls your every move I guess you not used yo seeing a big cock. The next day his wife text me I told her if she wanted to chat email talk FaceTime what ever it will only happen if her hubby sends me text asking me to allow his wife yo communicate with  me knowing that if he asks that shes gonna fuck me also need him to say this verbally. About 6 mths. later his family is having a family reunion We stayed at his parents house during this time 2 nights i slept on pull out in formal living room the 3rd day he got cocky sleeping with his wife and not wearing panties that night while he was in shower she took his towrl and gym shorts and left him a pair of his panties everyone was there he had to walk past to get something else she told his mom to call her son in and show off his new tattoo. "Mr Koolaide controls if and when my wife has to suffer thru disappointing sex with me her husband. He was beat red they she said he has one more to show it was over his tiny dickie it said tiny tony above that said the chose of what my wofe fucks O know why Im not fucking do u then a actual size tattoo of my cock and balls down his right leg it was about 10 mins his mom finely said hell id make the right leg too over the worthless thing everyone laughed I then told him get the pillow and blanket from sofa bed hes sleeping in the room with me and your wife. The next morn his dad knocked on bed room door told his son to adk me if I wanted to go fishing with the men his mom needed him to help her today his wife spent the day on the lake nothing on her but mine or her father in laws cock or cum. Seems thats when he found out he was adopted.

[littlecucky]

I know my son knew his mother had a "boyfriend", although I'm sure he doesn't know how many. While a teenager, he started to act up one day, so I had to explain to him that our "friend" was "our friend". That everything was okay, and that he didn't need to worry about anything. He was okay with that. After he grew up, he wanted a DNA test. He made it sound like it was an exciting ancestry thing. I did it, and he is my son.

My youngest is the one that would not be mine, but she's never done the test. I think she probably knows her mother was fucking around too with the same guy my son was concerned about, but again, not how many guys, although she has met the guy that is her father, she just doesn't know he is. He was my wife's first boyfriend after we were married.

The funny thing is, the whole family knows my son's wife cuckolded him. And there is some doubt in my mind that his youngest is really his, and to add to that, the child doesn't look like him.

I've never talked to my son's wife about it, but I have let her know that she is still part of the family, and still loved. 

 

[brandynbobnov]

as of january 2020, my youngest brother has not only known, but in fact, is my wifes MAN, and we both are submissive to him.  he is eleven years younger than i am, but MORE MAN on accident than i could ever be on purpose.  These are pictures of him,