RobJohnson

A fine looking bride. You cannot expect women like this not to have a host of lovers. She looks stunning and deserves to have the best lovers and variety.

I think we can all learn from others. I personally was taught from scratch from a Dominant Mistress. Everyone has a different situation, but listening to others and seeing if your situation matches theirs is a positive way forward.

If you ever have any doubts or insecurities ever, this would have been a time that would have given you a difficult time. I would have to be in the right state of mind to take that situation and handle it well. Wow.

This highlights the needs for real bulls, and highlights why it's only a good thing to let your wife / partner find quality lovers. Last night I had the pleasure of my partner, and came within a minute of being inside her. It just made me realise and understand even more why she searches for lovers outside of our relationship.

If think you might find it hard to achieve. I think you have discussed what you would like to see happen, which is a massive step, but she may just not be the type to want to go in that direction. I personally think that I would look after her really well, think of her needs in every situation and she may well start to take control and then there is a possibility that she feels right becoming the controller in the relationship and may then take advantage of other men. But you stating what "you" want is not really thinking of her and is not giving her the control. I would certainly ease off, or another alternative would be to say you wanted her to enjoy other men as you believe she deserves much better than you can give and you really would love to see her happy in every single aspect of her life. If she sees you are thinking of her you have a chance. But it appears at the moment it's about what you want and that needs to change. Focus on the lady in everything she does, support her in every way, treat her like a queen and she may well become stronger, more confident and she may then want to explore her new identity. This will take some time to sort out. PS everybody has a different situation. My partner enjoys her lovers behind my back, I am struggling to get her to bring it into the open. But as she has gained confidence and now knows I am just focussing on her, she has started to tell me about ex lovers, men who make a pass at her and I think within a year or so she may have the confidence to confide in me with regards to her needs with other men.

This was before I accepted I was a cuck. Been going out for about 6 months, totally in love with her. Absolutely stunning busty blonde, model material. She was always going on works nights out and I was a little worried, so I managed to invite myself on the next one she had. We met her work colleagues in a bar, all testosterone driven high earners, just the odd female amongst this group of men aged around 30-40. I was left talking to one of her female friends as she was talking to one of her bosses from head office. They had their backs to me as he slowly and continuously stroked her bottom. She didn't flinch, just took it as her friend looked at me in a sort of apologetic way. When she returned I mentioned her boss stroking her and she just passed it off as if it was nothing. Drinks were flowing, off to a restaurant and her flirting with all the men was outrageous, but from her point would have been defendable if I mentioned it. You could see the hunger in their eyes for her, the innuendo, her working the table, the sexual tension as I just sat there as she often got up to talk to these guys. At one point she sat on one of the guys knee, her large breasts virtually in his face. She was playing the room, was horny and all the guys were hot for her, and I was desperate to get her out of the restaurant and the evening to end. I needed to travel early the next day, so I suggested we leave, to which she responded "the guys want me to go back to their hotel for drinks, they are senior management so I must do as they say, you go and I will speak to you tomorrow" She was desperate for me to leave, but i just dare not say anything as I knew she would say she was just being friendly and I was being silly. I left the restaurant and leaving her was like knowing the guys would do all they could to get her knickers off. You knew as soon as I left they would be onto her even more than when I was there. None of the guys talked to me, it was that I wasn't wanted, I was a barrier between them and my girlfriend and they couldn't wait for me to go. Leaving that restaurant and walking back to get a taxi was hard. But then you doubted what you saw and thought maybe you were being silly and she was just having a bit of fun and nothing would happen. She was living at home so I didn't know what time she got home, and it wasn't mentioned the following day. I did wonder whether it was me and just mind games, but then over the years you realised that I wasn't seeing things and she is just a girl who loves cock and always will. There were several instances over the years where work colleagues managed to get her knickers down. Walking away that night leaving her to the hungry men to have her was humiliating, and several of these instances happened. It was only when I accepted my position and understood that her needs are the most important thing that I have managed to cope with these situations.

One of my best lessons was when Mistress explained to me that we can't be good at everything. It's only human that we are good at certain things and not others. I explained how attractive my partner is, and it was apparent that there is a miss match between us where she can command the best sex available from studs and lovers, yet I am only average on the sexual side. I learnt to accept that it is only natural that the cream rises to the top and if there are good looking studs out there that can give great pleasure to my beautiful partner, it's only natural for her to want to be satisfied by the best studs and I need to know where I stand with regards to ranking. I spent years fighting it, not wanting her to stray, but when you look at it in the cold light of day, it is only right that very attractive women get what they deserve sexually. So now I accept it and my partner gets what she deserves and needs and I understand why

This lady is not dissimilar to mine. These pictures show how gorgeous ladies like this deserve the very best and you just cannot put any barrier in the way of them getting the bulls their beauty deserves. We should never become barriers, and must learn to encourage them to get what they need sexually. It is only right.

I agree, for some it doesn't come easy. I can see the benefits for many people in this.

She told me on Monday evening that she would be out on Thursday evening. When I asked who she was going out with, there was a long pause, followed by a quiet reply of "just friends". Nothing more was said, and it was said in such a way as to let me know that I should not ask further questions about her imminent evening out. She was quiet the rest of the week, never mentioning her night out, and her lack of giving information was her way of letting me know she would be having a night out with her lover and it was best for everyone that I gave her enough space as possible. We didn't have sex the weekend before, and I knew sex wouldn't happen in the lead up to her night out as she would be saving herself for him. Bit of a shock on Wednesday evening as she let me know she would be blowing me off that evening, but she didn't want full sex. It litteraly was all about the blow job, she didn't even want to be touched, it was as if she was practicing the next nights techniques on me. I shot it straight down her throat, happy that I at least had some fun, but quickly knew it was all just a part of preparing herself for her lover and I knew she was thinking of him as she sucked me off. Thursday evening she got ready while I stayed downstairs. Not a word was said and I gave her all the space she needed. Out at 7pm, back at 12.30am, way after the bars close around our area. She came in whilst I was in bed, and not a word was said about the evening. I just asked her if she enjoyed herself and she replied "yes thank you". I knew not to ask questions as I would be causing her anxiety and I just needed to ensure she left happy, enjoyed herself and returned happy. I could have never done this without professional help, I needed to think constantly to my training and knew I just had to think of my partners needs. I am proud of how I behaved. It isn't all plain sailing and many moments during the week I needed to dig deep and think about my training and put it into practice

So basically my Mistress had taken my senses away from me, and having carried out various domination techniques on me, it made me feel that I was here to do with as she pleased. In the end I would turn up for sessions and the instant I put on the rubber suit or whatever I felt instant relief, like a relaxed feeling as it felt I was hers to do with as I pleased. I remember her fucking me with this drill type dildo and me having to visualise my partner getting fucked, then after she had finished she got this metal rod out and put it down my shaft to my ball sack. As someone who hates going doctors and having anything done to me, this should have freaked me out. But as I had learnt to submit, I just watched as this rod was inserted and I just wasn't bothered. I was hers to do as she pleased and I just felt a wonderful feeling that I was making her happy as this is what she wanted to do. So when my partner then tells me she is going away for the weekend, I just think how important she is, how I don't matter in the situation and I now get this tremendous feeling of happiness that she is getting what she wants. It makes me happy. I do need help every so often. I did see one of my partners lovers and he kinds of looks at me as if he has got one over me. I had to call Mistress as I was happy for my partner to get what she wanted, but could not cope with him looking at me and sniggering. Mistess told me it was nothing to do with me, I was not important, it's about what my partner wants and it is not my place to form any opinion whatsoever. I just don't matter. I then visualised her sucking him off and sniggering at me, thinking of what Mistrss taught me and I was able to cope and get the positives out of it.

Part one was one of the two key steps. Basically being put in a rubber suit with most of my senses being taken away gave me a feeling that I couldn't do anything about what happened to me, which helped me tremendously in my home life. Basically at home I became more submissive and allowed things to happen and I could feel my partner taking control more and I felt more comfortable. However, feeling comfortable about normal situations is fine, but you need extra help when coping with your partner going away at the weekend with a "friend" This area was covered off one week when I visited Mistress. She told me to strip and instead of the rubber suit I was told to put on a short dress, stockings and panties. Months before I would have felt stupid, but since my training I felt nothing, I just felt good dressing as Mistress wanted me to. I felt I was making her happy which felt nice. Then she had me strapped on my back on a bed and she opened my legs wide open and moved my panties to one side. I couldn't see as I had been blindfolded. Mistress then told me that this was the position my partner would like best to get her lovers cock inside her deep. It was a mixture of feelings, I was still unsure but then Mistress started fucking my ass with what I could only describe as an electric dildo drill. I couldn't see it, but I could feel these wonderful sensations as this thing pulsed in and out of me. It was amazing and I was in heaven, then Mistress said that these are the same feelings my partner gets when her lovers fuck her and that if I loved her, I should never stop her getting these wonderful feelings, especially as I wasn't a good enough lover to do it myself. Mistress mentioned my partners lovers names to test me, and tell me I must let them fuck her as she needs this pleasure. My mind was being conditioned to want my partner to be fucked by her lovers, and as I was blindfolded, it was as if I could see it happening and I was accepting it is the best thing for my partner. This was key stage two. Being made an object and having senses removed was part one, but then relating it to my partner and understanding the pleasures she receives and that I shouldn't stop it was the second crucial part........

..... when naked I was put in a rubber suit. I had my hands and ankles tied, a hood was placed over my head that only allowed me to breathe through my mouth. Basically all my senses were taken away, apart from my hearing and it was very scary. I couldn't do anything but breathe and my Mistress told me I must trust her. I was worried initially, but after a few of these sessions you got used to it and as soon as you had your senses taken away and wore the rubber suit you actually relaxed and sort of gave up on everything. You accepted everything, and as you couldn't do anything about it anyway, it was a sort of release and relief. Mistress would inflict pain on me. There must have been a flap around my cock that allowed her to release me. She would grab my balls and laugh at me as I was in pain as she twisted them and I could do nothing about it. She did several exercises to inflict pain or show her dominance and it was all about me learning to just accept everything that happened to me and not react as I couldn't due to the restraints. All the time she was telling me how nice it was to give in to her and that I needed to do the same at home. So being able to give in, relax and let things happen was one of the two key parts to my learnings. But this was only half of it. The next part together with this got me to the required stage that I am at now.....

My training took several sessions and results were not instant. It was a shock to be told that it was me who needed to change their behaviour rather than my straying partner, and I was struggling to take that in and fully understand the implications before my teacher started a practical session on me. At this point it's important to understand that the teacher (Mistress) was very softly spoken, very understanding and wasn't intimidating in anyway. However her words of informing me that my partner clearly loved cock and would never change were strong and powerful in their own right. I was told to strip off and once naked she looked me up and down and looked me in the eye and said that although my cock was not really tiny, It is only natural that an attractive lady with a great body would desire larger cocks to satisfy her and that I should not blaming her for wanting better than I could offer. So basically she had shocked me with what she said about my partner never changing, then she said that she would be wanting a bigger cock. So at this point everything was going wrong, I was being told things I didn't want to hear, but the next steps were practical situations that helped me conquer my anxiety and change my attitude forever.....

Some maybe able to adapt, but I certainly wasn't. It was not my decision to allow my partner lovers, she just chose to have them. You can feel all alone. Forums are good for advice, but I needed a more tailored approach with one on one training. It is so difficult to accept your wife needs other men, and I couldn't have coped alone. I remember going out clothes shopping with my partner, knowing she was buying revealing work clothes to seduce her secret stud lover. I had received training and guidance professionally beforehand and I knew I needed to encourage the more revealing garnents, then suggesting new underwear. Before training I would have been anxious and panicky. But after training I helped her choose, knew it would have a positive impact on her lover and I felt I had achieved something for everyone's benefit. I will mention how I was trained either on here or privately. But it was a massive help.

Professionally trained or self taught? Personally I didn't know what a cuckold was, I just knew my partner had many partners before we met and it was evident she was cheating throughout our relationship. I started writing about her behaviour, which made me feel better about it for some reason, then realising my partners sexual dominance, I decided to seek professional opinion through a professional Mistress. The lady was amazing, she introduces me to the term cuckold, and put me through several tailored training sessions that were literally life changing. I discussed my partners sexual history and her behaviours and quite early on my Mistress gave me news that I just wasn't expecting. "Your problem is not your partners behaviour, it's yours. You have spent your life trying to put barriers in the way of your partner seeking lovers. It is so clear that she loves cock and that will NEVER change. You however need to change your behaviour. You need to support her, change your mindset, then one day she will be happy to discuss her needs with you, rather than have to do it behind your back" I just wasn't expecting Mistress to say that. She said that my partner was clearly a slut, but slut just means a lady who loves cock and that I should not judge the term in a bad way. My training was powerful over a number of sessions. It involved many different techniques and each time I was sent away with different objectives. Mistress was only a call away should I have suffered setbacks or if I felt anxious, and every session was some of the most rewarding moments of my life. I will put on here some of her techniques, but at this point I just wanted to say that from where I was I am now a different person and my relationship at home is so much better you wouldn't believe. We are not yet at the point where she tells me of her lovers, but we are now getting very close. We were on holiday recently as a couple in a resort full of young groups and my partner said she wanted to come back with a girlfriend, but said she certainly wouldn't be able to resist the men. We discussed how she would behave and she openly said she would have so much cock she would be full of spunk by the time she arrived back home to me. Its only a matter of time that we are fully open on her desires and needs and it is all down to my wonderful Mistress who taught me so well. Getting the right Mistress is so important. It isn't about a spanking like I thought it was, it's about getting in your head and teaching you the right way forward. Mistress understood me fully, she discussed everything in detail and was truly the most amazing coach you could ever have. Luckily she was very knowledgable. Her husband was a true cuckold, he never ever got to penetrate her and he wore a cage that only came off every three months. He got to cum once when the cage was off, then back on again for another three months. For me I needed the training so much and could not have done this myself. I was fighting something that I shouldn't have been fighting and I only managed to do this will professional help. I now behave so much better, but Mistress did say that there will be a point where I will need to act differently than a normal cuckold. She said that when my partner and I do manage to be totally open about her needs and desires, I may have to step in and put a limit on how much cock she gets as it appeared to Mistress that my partner is so cock hungry that she could be with a different man every week. Anyone else have professional training?

Thinking about this, I think that if bareback wasn't possible due to not knowing the partner well etc, it should be a goal to try and achieve bareback in the future. Yes, if your wife was to get a new cock that would be a great result for you both. But then if you could work towards ensuring the partner was the right one, then you could make the next natural step in giving her the bare cock that I am sure everyone would agree would be best for the wife, her lover and her cuck. Then the next cuck step could be to ensure the cuck always uses condoms in the future, ensuring only her lovers enjoy the bareback experience

The best part for me is the change that has occurred within me in understanding and accepting that my partners needs are the most important thing. Knowing she will be meeting a lover and carefully giving her space or ensure she enjoys her lover to the full. It takes a special strength to be able to want your partner to enjoy herself to the full. However this plays out in the future I don't know, but I am not important so that doesn't matter. Giving her the space to do what she needs, and allowing everything to happen as she wishes (and I mean everything) is the best part for me. Five days ago she told me she feels she has missed out not having ever sampled a black cock. I said nothing. It is up to her to deal with this as she wishes and I hope she fulfills any needs and desires she has. Ensuring she has total satisfaction is the best bit and is all that matters.

My partner doesn't yet discuss her lovers with me (we are slowly getting there), but she told me that before we met she was defiantly a bare back girl. But now she has lovers, I think it's even better for her to continue her need for bare back as it just seems right that her lovers mark their territory and send her home used. I think her lovers are all well known to her, so safety wise it's okay too. I just think she will want bare back, her lover will want to send her back used, but just as important it helps me develop as a cuck and so I am grateful to them both for choosing no condoms.

My partner cheats on me currently ( please don't judge), but communication is getting better and I am sure soon we will be discussing her lovers. As we don't yet discuss what she gets up to when seeing her lovers, her preparing herself is the time I get the strongest feelings. When I am certain she will be cheating, the day of the act and preparation is so intense, but even the days and weeks before can be so strong. Earlier this year she planned on a day and night away with her "friend", and on investigating her phone I knew it was with her lover. Clothes shopping a few weeks before her weekend away was so intense. Coming out of changing room cubicles in short dresses and asking me which ones I preferred? I knew they were clothes her lover would be seeing her in and removing, so the pain and pleasure was unreal. Helping her pick her dresses, shoes, make-up and underwear, all knowing her lover will be the one that benefits. Then on the day she goes, not a word is spoken, we both go quiet as I am certain she knows I know what she is up to so it's best for us both we respect each other and ensure I don't get in her way or in her head. If it is just a night out with her lover the preparation is even better. I will run her a bath, prepare some food for her so she has energy and pop into the bedroom several times as I see her put her underwear and clothes on ready for him. I feel I have actually helped the situation if I have been involved in the decision making on what she is to wear and feel I might just make the date go a little better if she is nice and relaxed and looking superb