☝When the Cuckold Is Not Into Humiliation

[Billparker]

2 minutes ago, eisbaer63 said:

There are a lot of so-called "bulls", who are just desperate "BULLIES", trying to find a steady piece of ass. A real Bull, will find out what dynamic a cuckold couple wants and needs... And tailor his behavior accordingly. Another problem, is men that confuse "cuckoldry" with "hotwifery". They are most CERTAINLY not the same lifestyle, in spite of a few similarities. Not all husband OR wives, want, need, or are willing to put up with unwanted "D/s games". 

It does not matter WHAT the dynamic is, a certain amount of respect should be shown... Especially in the beginning, before you truly understand the situation.

You're right. And women want bulls that are manly,and being an asshole is not manly

[STLcouple82]

In our relationship, the husband is not the prototypical small penis, humiliation type cuckold. He is a blend of the generous, competitive, and voyeur cuckold! The wife is not a slut, not a one night stand type of girl, or a femdom hotwife. She is very selective, prefers long term "friends with benefits" relationships, and likes to tease her husband with her conquests, but has no interest in humiliating him. 

[STLcouple82]

I guess it depends on your own definition of what cuckolding is.

I think it's a definite form of cuckolding. For example, the first time my wife had sex with another man during our marriage, she seduced one of my best friends, and took him to our bedroom, and had sex with him in our bed. If that's not cuckolding, I don't know what is. Since then, many years later, of the seven men she has seduced and taken as lovers, five of them were (still are) very good friends of mine. Only two of her conquests were men she met outside of our circle of friends. I didn't suggest them, she picked them herself, and she later admitted that her fucking my friends was more exciting for her, and she knew it would test me, and my willingness to give her complete control in her own sexuality, and who she chooses to sleep with. 

She has also admitted that at least three of her lovers fuck better, and two of them are better equipped. One other lover is far better than me at oral sex. While she claims sexually, I'm very satisfying, I'm not her best in any catagory. There have also been long periods, where one of her lover's would recieve far more sexual attention from from her, than she was giving me. She chooses if I'm allowed to be with her, when she goes out with a lover. When one of her long distance lovers comes to town to see her, she has made it clear that during those visits, she is sexually exclusive to him. I'm completely cut off during those periods. 

We don't play at hardcore humiliation, simply because we're not into it, and we both find the more subtle aspects, like picking a lover over me, teasing me about his prowess, stamina, and/or better endowment, and watching her higher level of passion with a lover, quite humiliating enough. There is nothing sexier or more humliatiing to me, than to watch her take her lover's cock in her mouth or pussy, while looking straight at me with a playfully defiant look on her face. 

We may not have the kind of cuckolding relationship that is played out in bad porn or Letters to Penthouse, and we don't play around with extended periods of denial or forced chastity, but it is certainly moved beyond a simple Hotwife relationship. At least that's how we see it!

 

[Joys]

I'm not into humiliation at all, neither my wife is into humiliating me. Any attempt would lead to a definite disengagement with the guy.

The guy should have total respect to us - after all, I am the one who is offering his wife and my wife is the one offering herself to him. He wouldn't be here if we did not allow (otherwise it would be r a p e right??)

Having said that, I can see a bit of myself in those categories except for The Generous Cuckold Husband and Cuckold Husbands and their "Slut Wives" and the closest ones to me are The Cuckold Voyeur and The Giving Cuckold Husband.

[Guest blackhat2]

Well we're in more the hotwife, slutwife area, the only ones that have ever been humiliated were some asshole how tried the humiliation crap, because they had bigger dicks it turned my wife off, and I ended up throwing the asshole out of the hotel room naked. Then again I'm 6'1" 250 and work construction, and worked as a bouncer in some redneck bars for 10yrs. Even the guys that played nice were amazed that I could make Deb squirt when their bigger cocks couldn't.  Oh and when I threw the assholes out into the hallway, their clothes went out the window. You don't fuck with an old bikers slut and get by with it.

[peterjf61]

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[Enigma6320]

Whenever I talk to cucks, real or wannabe's, I always ask them why they want another man to have sex with their wives and have had a total range of responses ranging from the really submissive "doormat" type who claims not to be worthy of sex with his wife who should only be pleasured by "real" men through to the type who regards his wife as a hot wife who is free to enjoy her sexuality.

However I would say that most want to watch their wife having sex, to treat her as their personal porn star and are willing to accept (or perhaps believe that they have to) behaving submissively as the price to pay to get this - "Yes, tie me in a chair in the corner, but make sure that it's somewhere that I can watch". With some it also gives them an excuse to try out some of their fantasies e.g. cleaning their wife afterwards 

My belief is that the event should give some form of pleasure to all involved, which for the cuck may be a simple as knowing that his wife has had great sex (hopefully) or for the truly submissive cuck that he has been given my some form of "pain" (mental anguish, humiliation) which is what he craves

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[Marriedcuck]

Even i dont like the thoughts of getting humiliated it has to be enjoyed not humiliation.

[hubby2005us]

Would like it if I was "The Giving Cuckold Husband" but can't talk the wife into letting me share her.

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[Joys]

On 1/13/2017 at 5:17 PM, Voy said:

Well said! I could not phrase it better than you.

The closest ones to me are The Cuckold Voyeur and The Giving Cuckold Husband.

Wonderful picture. Is it of you 2??

[UK_EX]

On 1/6/2017 at 11:26 PM, Enigma6320 said:

Whenever I talk to cucks, real or wannabe's, I always ask them why they want another man to have sex with their wives and have had a total range of responses ranging from the really submissive "doormat" type who claims not to be worthy of sex with his wife who should only be pleasured by "real" men through to the type who regards his wife as a hot wife who is free to enjoy her sexuality.

However I would say that most want to watch their wife having sex, to treat her as their personal porn star and are willing to accept (or perhaps believe that they have to) behaving submissively as the price to pay to get this - "Yes, tie me in a chair in the corner, but make sure that it's somewhere that I can watch". With some it also gives them an excuse to try out some of their fantasies e.g. cleaning their wife afterwards 

My belief is that the event should give some form of pleasure to all involved, which for the cuck may be a simple as knowing that his wife has had great sex (hopefully) or for the truly submissive cuck that he has been given my some form of "pain" (mental anguish, humiliation) which is what he craves

Agreed there Enigma, this should give pleasure to ALL involved.   For me it satisfied the need inside me to know she was being fucked by someone far better than me.  It also gave me that pain and anguish that come from handing over my wife entirely to someone else for his pleasure.  As he was divorced, there was always the possibility that he could whisk her off her feet and take her away from me, which I really did not want to happen, I endured the risk to gain the pleasure of knowing that they were enjoying each other in bed so much.   I would have loved to be able to watch them, but she excluded me from their relationship entirely.   Being tied up and forced to watch? Oh YES please!   Cleaning up after he had left, or when she returned from his place was wonderful to be able to do.

[peterjf61]

On ‎2‎/‎5‎/‎2017 at 10:19 AM, UK_EX said:

Agreed there Enigma, this should give pleasure to ALL involved.   For me it satisfied the need inside me to know she was being fucked by someone far better than me.  It also gave me that pain and anguish that come from handing over my wife entirely to someone else for his pleasure.  As he was divorced, there was always the possibility that he could whisk her off her feet and take her away from me, which I really did not want to happen, I endured the risk to gain the pleasure of knowing that they were enjoying each other in bed so much.   I would have loved to be able to watch them, but she excluded me from their relationship entirely.   Being tied up and forced to watch? Oh YES please!   Cleaning up after he had left, or when she returned from his place was wonderful to be able to do.

totally agree , and its not about a massive cock, its about that feeling with the 1st meeting , everyone feeling the electricity of the meet, the building of trust, enjoying company, everyone limits respected , having the wife dressed to please  requesting hubby to prepare his wife for the cock to come, ensuring that everyone is ok with everything ,

[UK_EX]

4 hours ago, peterjf61 said:

totally agree , and its not about a massive cock, its about that feeling with the 1st meeting , everyone feeling the electricity of the meet, the building of trust, enjoying company, everyone limits respected , having the wife dressed to please  requesting hubby to prepare his wife for the cock to come, ensuring that everyone is ok with everything ,

Absolutely, just because I want her to be fucked by someone else, does NOT mean I don't love her.  It's because I love her that I want her to enjoy herself in bed with someone else who can satisfy her.   Respect please.

[Joys]

On 2/6/2017 at 1:36 PM, peterjf61 said:

its not about a massive cock, its about that feeling with the 1st meeting....

Not about the size at all, the size of the cock comes much behind

 

[Joys]

On 2/6/2017 at 6:32 PM, UK_EX said:

Absolutely, just because I want her to be fucked by someone else, does NOT mean I don't love her.  It's because I love her that I want her to enjoy herself in bed with someone else who can satisfy her.   Respect please.

Exactly

[Ilovethatnectar]

Thanks for posting this.  I would say I'm the giving and competitive way.

[DomBull4U]

Folks....There is some interesting reading on this thread. Some great comments from a wide variety of cuckold husbands...and a few hotwives...giving their particular viewpoints.

Upon reading this it seems like one thing can be said....each and every cuckold husband/hotwife/bull relationship is unique. The cuck hub/hotwife/bull relationship is just like any good, working relationship....requires time, understanding, respect, good chemisty and what I consider the most important quality....TRUST.

Really interesting comments posted here everyone....great insights to esch of your unique situations.

Thanks much for sharing your thoughts!

Happy New Year...best wishes to all for a wonderful 2019!

DomBull4U

[hareram007]

Totally agree, as a bull or as a cuck, i believe it is much more than about humiliation, at least for me. It is about exploring your boundaries, your fantasies, having a healthy open relationship and having a wonderful time.

[farmqueen]

On 8/7/2014 at 6:32 PM, sultanCucky said:

When the Cuckold Is Not Into Humiliation

By Ms Dusty of Cuckold Fantasies

Not all cuckolds have a strong desire to be humiliated. It seems the majority of people believe that if the husband is a cuckold in his relationship, he must have a small penis, or some other physical or sexual inadequacy, making it necessary for the wife to sl**p with other men to get satisfied. However, this is not always the case: not all cuckolds have a desire to be humiliated. Let's look at some reasons why.

The Cuckold Voyeur
In some instances, the cuckold husband has a strong desire to live out his voyeuristic fantasies. This is especially true of husbands who are proud of their wives. The husband wants to show her off. Coincidently, the cuckold wants to actually watch another man enjoy his sexy wife. This can be very erotic for everyone involved, especially if she is proud of her body and wants to show if off as well. Again, this has little to do with humiliating the cuckold. Rather, he lives out his fantasy of "watching." It is very rewarding to the cuckold to share something so erotic with the woman he loves.

The Generous Cuckold Husband
Some men get really turned on bragging to their buddies about how hot their wife is. In fact, this is extremely common. Plenty of men love to boast about the hot piece of ass they get to "experience" whenever the mood strikes them. When this type of man gets into cuckolding, he approaches it out of the desire to give his buddy a gift (his wife). He would like his friend to experience the same pleasure he receives from his wife. What better gift to give your buddy? As you can imagine, this kind of sex has little to do with humiliating the cuckold. It's about sharing the wealth, or in this case, the wife.

Cuckold Husbands and their "Slut Wives"
Sometimes the cuckold has strong desires for his wife to be a prostitute, or slut wife. This could be more related to humiliating the slut wife, instead of humiliating the cuckold. He wants to basically act as her pimp. In this case, he may not even want to watch it. He may have a fantasy of his wife essentially acting as a prostitute with several men. He may just get off on listening to his slut wife as she relays all the erotic details to him after the fact.

The Giving Cuckold Husband
Another aspect of a cuckolded husband could be that he just wants his wife to experience something different. He has the desire to break free from the boring vanilla sex the couple is used to. He wants to introduce new and diverse sex to his wife. He has aspirations of spicing up the couple's sex life. Cuckolding can possess all the elements of a powerful, sexual diversion the couple is craving.

The Dominant Cuckold
The cuckold wants to dominate his wife. He desires to make his wife subservient to other men's wishes. In this case, the cuckold wants to demonstrate complete control over his submissive wife. This also works for her as well, if she has a desire to be submissive.

The Competitive Cuckold
The cuckold has a desire to compete for his wife. Some men, love the chase, and fantasize about it. When you finally marry the person you love. The chase has diminished. By the cuckold bringing another man in the bedroom, he is essentially recreating that competition that was lost when they married. He is now able to "compete" for his wife again.

As you can see, there are many reasons a cuckold is not humiliated in the relationship. I could list many more, but I think you get the idea. Just because a man has stated he wants to be cuckolded does not necessarily mean he wants humiliation. In fact I have talked to several cuckolds, who have no intentions of being humiliated at all

 

    

 

  

 

  

 

  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

CUCKOLD CONTRACT

When a сuckoldress and a сuckold start out its a good idea to put a сuckold сontract in writing. This is common practise in many сuckold relationships and makes a lot of sense. If you do decide to draw up a сuckold сontract don’t rush it. Take your time. Talk about it first. Write down a general outline of the contract first. Develop the cuckold contract over a few days or weeks before you decide on the final copy. The bulk of the cuckold contract will be about what the cuckoldress wants, but make sure to add a little for the cuckolds needs also. A long term happy cuckold relationship needs input from both partners. A good outline in the cuckold contract is to include all the rules and regulations that the cuckold must follow. Also write in detail the expectations of what the cuckold must do. Make sure the cuckold signs all areas of the contract. Be open to change the cuckold contract over the years as circumstances change. You may need to add changes or remove some stuff that is no longer needed. A cuckold contract should serve more as a guide line and be open to change as the cuckold relationship develops.

Example:
This contract forms a binding agreement between the two parties named below in respect to their cuckold marriage:

Cuckoldress _________________ & Cuckold _____________________
 

Without abstention both parties have, by means of performing the Cuckold Contract agrees solemnly to comply with the following set of agreements.

1. Rights of the Cuckoldress
(1.1) The cuckoldress will have the right to have sexual relations with any she may choose to do so with.
(1.2) The number of men she has sexual relations with is the discression of the cuckoldress.
(1.3) The cuckoldress has the right to choose which men she will have sexual relations with.
(1.4) The period of the cuckoldress having sexual relations with other men is indefinite.
(1.5) The cuckoldress may have sexual relation with other men as much as she may choose.
(1.6) The cuckoldress may have sexual relations with other men where ever she may choose.
(1.7) The cuckoldress has the right to have sexual relations with more than one man at a time or multiple partners at a time.
(1.8) The cuckoldress has the right to become pregnant by her lover if she so chooses to do so.
(1.9) The cuckoldress has the right to give birth to any c***dren conceived during her sexual relations with other men.
(1.10) The cuckoldress has the right to keep the cuckold in a chastity device as long as she may choose.
(1.11) The cuckoldress has the right to deny sex to the cuckold if she chooses to do so.
(1.12) The cuckoldress has the right to allow other men to ejaculate inside her vagina and mouth.
(1.13) The cuckoldress has the right to use or not to use birth control.

2. Duties of the Cuckold
(2.1) The cuckold will prepare all items for the cuckoldress and her bull before their meeting.
(2.2) The cuckold will follow any and all instruction given by the cuckoldress and her bull during their meeting.
(2.3) The cuckold will help the cuckoldress’s bull achieve erection (orally), if instructed to do so.
(2.4) The cuckold will orally clean the cuckoldress’s vagina after her bull has finished ejaculating inside her vagina, if instructed to do so.
(2.5) The cuckold will orally clean the cuckoldress’s juices off the bull’s penis after the bull has finished intercourse with the cuckoldress, if instructed to do so.
(2.6) The cuckold will clean up after the cuckoldress and her bull meeting.

3. Rights of the Black or White Bull
(3.1) The bull has the right to the cuckoldress’s vagina.
(3.2) The bull has the right to deny the cuckold any intercourse with the cuckoldress.
(3.3) The bull has the right to hold the key to the cuckold’s chastity device if he so wishes.
(3.4) The bull has the right to impregnate the cuckoldress, if the cuckoldress allows it to happen.
(3.5) The bull has the right to hhhhhhhhh the cuckold any time he wants.
(3.6) The bull has the right to give instruction to the cuckold.
(3.7) The bull has the right to ejaculate inside the cuckoldress’s vagina.
(3.8) The bull has the right to ejaculate inside the cuckoldress’s mouth.

4. Intercourse
(4.1) The cuckoldress will decide if there is any sexual relations between her and the cuckold.
(4.2) The cuckold must obey any sexual request made by the cuckoldress.
(4.3) The cuckold is responsible for all cleaning of any and all sex toys.
(4.4) The cuckold may not ask for sexual relations from the cuckoldress, the cuckoldress will determine when sexual relations will be given to the cuckold.
(4.5) The cuckoldress will determine when the cuckold will be allowed to ejaculate.
(4.6) Te cuckold will not be allowed to have sexual intercourse more than twice a month with the cuckoldress (for the cuckold’s health reasons).
(4.7) The cuckold must wear a condom and never ejaculate inside the cuckoldress’s vagina whenever he does have intercourse with the cuckoldress.
(4.8) The cuckold must dispose of at all times any of his ejaculate by flushing it down the toilet.

5. Chastity Enforcement
(5.1) The cuckold must wear his chastity device at all times unless approved by the cuckoldress.
(5.2) The cuckoldress will hold the key to the chastity device unless permission is given to the bull by the cuckoldress to hold the key.
(5.3) The emergency back up keys for the chastity device will be locked in a safe box and the cuckoldress will hold the key to the safe box also.
(5.4) The cuckoldress will unlock the chastity device only when it is time for the two sexual intercourse times and or the other ejaculation times.
(5.5) Punishment for not wearing the chastity device will be no sexual intercourse or any ejaculation for one month.

6. Ownership Rights
(6.1) The cuckold is property of the cuckoldress.
(6.2) The cuckold will wear his slave bar coded tags at all times.
(6.3) The cuckold will wear his cuckold T-shirt whenever instructed to do so by the cuckoldress.
(6.4) The cuckold will wear women’s panties at all times whenever he is not at work.
(6.5) The cuckold will not argue with the cuckoldress
(6.6) The cuckold will not raise his voice to the cuckoldress.
(6.7) The cuckold will not criticize the cuckoldress.
(6.8) The cuckold will not break any promise to the cuckoldress.
(6.9) The cuckold must always submit to the cuckoldress.
(6.9a) The cuckold will not hide anything from the cuckoldress.
(6.9b) The cuckold will not tell any friend or f****y member of the cuckoldress about her sexual relations with other men.
（6.9c) The cuckold must report to the cuckoldress everyday for her inspection checklist of chastity enf***ement, slave tag wearing, cuckold t-shirt wearing, and women’s panty wearing

7. Punishments
(7.1) All punishments will be the right of the cuckoldress.
(7.2) All punishments will be determined by the cuckoldress.
(7.3) Punishments can be any or all of the following:
(7.3a) Extra household duties.
(7.3b) Longer times of wearing chastity device without sexual
Intercourse or ejaculation.
(7.3c) The cuckoldress cheating on the cuckold with black or white men.
(7.4d) The cuckoldress showing pictures or telling cuckold’s friends or co-workers about his chastity device or about their cuckold marriage and cuckoldress’s sexual relations with other men.
(7.5e) The cuckoldress telling the cuckold’s f****y and friends and co-workers about not being able to keep his penis hard and having to take Viagra to keep it hard.

8. Humiliation
(8.1) The cuckoldress telling cuckold in front of the bull how small cuckold penis is.
(8.2) The cuckoldress telling the cuckold what a lousy lover he is and how wonderful her bull is.
(8.3) The cuckoldress always comparing the size of black or white men’s penis to cuckold’s penis.
(8.4) The cuckoldress laughing at the size of the cuckold’s penis.
(8.5) The cuckoldress reminding the cuckold of how less of a man he is for having a small penis and not having enough seed to impregnate her.
(8.6) The cuckold must accept all humiliation without getting angry or disappointed.
(8.7) The cuckold will get a vasectomy if instructed to do so by the cuckoldress or the bull.
(8.8) The cuckold will wear women’s panties whenever instructed to do so by the cuckoldress.

9. Rights of the Cuckold
(9.1) The cuckold cannot back out of this agreement and cannot change his mind about the cuckoldress having sexual relations with black or white men once this contract is signed.
(9.2) The cuckold has the right to be told of any and all sexual relations with black or white men

The aforementioned agreements will take effect from the date of the Cuckold Contract signing. All agreements are to start on this day. This contract is legal furthermore the cuckold cannot take any legal action in a court of law against the cuckoldress for any of these agreements including having sexual relations with other men outside of this marriage. If cuckold breaks this agreement and does not allow the cuckoldress to do all of the things that are listed in this agreement. He will pay the cuckoldress $500,000 in cash and the cuckoldress keeps the house. This Cuckold Contract is agreed upon by both parties because of the inability of the cuckold to satisfy the cuckoldress sexually.


Cuckoldress _______________Date _______


Cuckold __________________  Date_______

 

 

[farmqueen]

so nasty to be a mom