This sounds so much familiar to me, "but now I just want you to want me"... When I discussed this with my wife, she also thought it was because I didn't want her anymore and because I didn't want to have sex with her, I wanted her to find someone else. It took a lot of persuasion to convince her that was not the case. She also wants it as fantasy but afraid to make it happen. We should find a way to convince our wives, that we still find them attractive and this would make it much more