My wife and I have been in a cuckold relationship since 6 months into our relationship, with a few attempts at swinging and a six month separation before we were engaged and over the years it has evolved considerably. As I've grown more into the actual world of cuckoldry I've seen it change too. So much of what you say resonates with me. I am a cuck (a term I use proudly) by choice. I'm fit, have a decent dick, know how to use, good stamina. The stereotypes to me, have really begun to spin out of control, almost to the part where outsiders view it as the norm.
Our boyfriend (what started out as just a regular playmate has blossomed into a polyamorous relationship) is white. And although she has had a few black lovers she still has no preference on skin color.
I've seen a lot of people claim to be in hotwife lifestyles but not want to call it a cuckold relationship because of the connotation of it. Instead they opt to call their husbands (or themselves Stags) However these have tended to be simply open relationships where the husband gets to fool around as well. This bothers me most, a stag is a type of cuck, however one that tends to take a more passive role. Not into humiliation, maybe still dominant to his etc. You cannot change the definition of something because you don't like it, then hijack another term because you like the sound of it.
Sorry this is so disjointed, I'm typing on my phone in two minute increments trying to look like I'm returning something important. Lol. Anyway I love this thread and am looking forward to see what everyone else thinks!