I almost thought someone wrote our story lol. You must be our doppelgangers We had very much the same thing going on but we made our way through it, but after almost 14 years in the cuckold lifestyle we're still "working on it" and that will never change. Our differences were ironed out by lots of talk and a lot of give and take. Now when one of us has an issue going on inside we don't brew it up to the point of explosion anymore, we pour a drink, sit down and calmly discuss the issue at hand without bringing up any stress levels in either of us (this includes my boyfriend). You described it all so very well, keep up the good work and keep on working on your communications, that's so critical in this lifestyle. Cat