You are absolutely correct, I was going to say much the same thing. The cuckold husband is so very important in the hotwife relaxing and enjoying her tryst (s). My husband took a long time to convince me that he was so good with me having lovers but I love him so much that even when I finally got into the "swing" of it, I was still concerned that he would not see me or love me the same as he used to. But after even more time and talking I finally understood how much he really did love me, maybe even more than he did before we got into the cuckold lifestyle. He's there for me when I come back to him and he talks to me about my evening with my lover and always pampers my pussy with his tongue as I tell him all about how amazing my lover is, he can't wait to hear it all. He's so important to me, if I ever thought for a moment that he wasn't happy or was feeling left out I would stop seeing my lover immediately and turn my attention to my husband because he's the most important person in my life. This is the way it really should be in a successful cuckold/hotwife relationship. Some people prefer that the cuckold is left completely out of the whole thing but in my eyes it just means that he's really not that important to the hotwife in the first place, and he's just happy she's still in his life even though they're no longer connected spiritually. Again this is just my opinion but every couple in a cuckold relationship I've ever met in the 12 years we've been in the lifestyle, have been much the same as us, spiritually bonded and VERY into each other's roles and interactions. So in my opinion you shouldn't stay out of her meetings with men for the first time, on the contrary, you should introduce yourself to the potential lover and explain that you love your wife very much and want her to be sexually happier than she currently is in your relationship, but you'll always be there for her and you'll protect her if anyone should hurt her or try to split the two of you apart. My husband has several black belts in martial arts and would have no problem taking care of anyone who hurt me or tried to break up our marriage, and he explains that to my lovers as well. All of my lovers have respected my cuckold husband and even became friends with him. They respected the fact that he is such a good husband who wants me to be happy. Now yes, my cucky wears panties and even other feminine items when I've told him to, but it's all in the fun and he enjoys the role. I hope this helps a bit, as others have said, everyone has some different ways they work in this lifestyle but in the end everyone has to be happy or it just won't work. Good luck in your adventures